Balanced Other Focus

Do Right…By Yourself

“Always do the right thing, despite the games someone else is playing.” – Tracy A. Malone

Don’t Forget

“Always remember who you were before knowing a narcissist. If you don’t know who you were, invent who you want to be.” – Tracy A. Malone

Uber Giver

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.” – Karl Lagerfeld

Alchemical Gratitude

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie

Double Bind

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say you’re no fun anymore. You’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.” – Susan Williams

Go Your Own Way

“Detachment is letting another person experience their consequences instead of taking responsibility for their actions.” – Unknown

Is That Ok?

“I am a recovering people pleaser. Is that ok?” – Anonymous

It’s Not You, It’s Me

“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.” Melody Beattie

Priority One

Snap Out of It

“The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, “What do I need to do to take care of myself?” – Melody Beattie