Narcissist

FOBO (Fear of Being Ordinary)

“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.” – Brene Brown

Double Bind

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say you’re no fun anymore. You’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.” – Susan Williams

Self Interest

“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm (that they cause) does not interest them. Or they do not see it. Or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves. – t.s. eliot

It Might Hurt a Little…

“Truth is like surgery. It hurts, but it cures. A lie is like a pain killer. It gives instant relief, but has side effects forever.” – Unknown

Word to the Wise

“Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” – Jonathan Franzen

Keep it Separated

“The opposite pole to narcissism is objectivity; it is the faculty to see other people and things as they are, objectively, and to be able to separate this objective picture from a picture which is formed by one’s desires and fears.” -Erich Fromm

Big Love

“I learned again and again in my life, until you get your own act together, you’re not ready for Big Love. What you’re ready for is one of those codependent relationships where you desperately need a partner.” – Bruce H. Lipton

See Through

“Narcissism and self-deception are survival mechanisms without which many of us might just jump off a bridge.” – Todd Solonz

The Flip Side

“I thought narcissism was about self-love till someone told me there is a flip side to it … It is unrequited self-love.” – Emily Levine   How Happy Whole Human are you? Click here to take the quiz!